Defining your shape
In both instances, take note of whether you are top or bottom heavy. Carrying the weight up top invariably means you have big boobs, fat arms, a wobbly tummy and a shorter neck, while your legs, butt and skin will be the envy of all your friends. Bottom bulk will often be topped by a long back, which means a flatter stomach because your intestines quite literally have more room. Your breasts will be smaller and your arms more shapely. Talking legs, they too have variables and their shape and fat distribution will dictate what shoes and tights you wear. Same with a neck. If you think you look daft in a collar your neck is probably short. If thin chokers get lost, then your neck will be longer.
One time when a woman must re-evaluate her shape is during menopause. The most common change is a thickening of the waist where the stomach takes over as a main body flaw and can become bigger than your chest size. You must learn to accept your figure at every stage of your life. Look to your mother as to how you will fare at menopause.
Only when you accept your body shape will you have the courage to move on. We sympathise and know this is an awful thing to ask of you, but please take our advice - it is the first step to a new you.